Hooks...

It seems like there are hooks all over in my life. Situations, people and circumstances are all possible places to get hooked.

By hooked, I mean the experience of feeling instantly upset. Everything is great one minute and then you get a call from your boss/ex/mom/dad and they say that thing that sends you spinning. Or you check your bank balance and it's negative and there are checks out. Or you loose grandma's antique such and such. Or you hear that your best friend is saying terrible things about you. For each person it's a little different.

So what to do about getting hooked? How to avoid the hooks? How to get unhooked?

When I notice I'm hooked, I stop. I stop resisting the situation. I mentally/energetically take a step back to see the situation in a wider view. I see where and what hooked me. I take a deep breath and ask myself "Is this the truth?". And then I let go. Just let it go.

If I'm not attached to a situation, person or circumstance then there is no place for the hook to hold. By letting go, I essentially free up the place where the hook got me. The hook has nothing to hold and falls free. Which doesn't mean I've stopped caring. It simply means I've stopped making these situations personal. There may be actions to take, and it doesn't mean anything about me personally.

What hooks you?

copyright Yvonne Falk 2009 ALL RIGHTS RESERVED